ESCOBEDO COUNSELING

COUPLES THERAPY

IN-PERSON THERAPY IN LITTLETON & ONLINE ACROSS COLORADO

Is your relationship not the same and you find yourselves drifting apart?

Do you feel misunderstood by your partner and wish you could get through to them?

Are you stuck in the same arguments and want to build solutions and connection?

Maybe you have had yet another one of those same arguments, where you both end up feeling defeated and pull away from each other in silence. You know how the story goes, where one of you feels upset and voices your concerns, only to be met with more anger and frustration. You go round and round with one another, arguing until one of you leaves the fight, overwhelmed by frustration and hurt. There is never a solution, just “sweep it under the rug” and keep going through the motions of each day, with the hurt piling up to the point of losing trust in your relationship.

Perhaps it has been so long since you felt like “us” that getting back on the same team feels impossible. You remember a time when you felt so close and happy to have found your person, yet now everything feels like a hassle and hard work just to communicate with each other. You may be feeling alone in your relationship, like you don’t truly know one another anymore, and aren’t sure you have what it takes to make this work.

Perhaps intimacy— both emotional and sexual— are things of the past in your relationship. You feel lost and disconnected from each other, and are losing faith that your partner really cares about you and wants to make you their priority. You both have unmet needs, and asking for what you want in the relationship only leads to more arguments and distancing.

CONNECTION AND INTIMACY isn’t A PIPE DREAM.

Imagine a life where you can feel understood by your partner and secure in your love for each other.

A love where you can show up as 100% yourself and feel accepted and supported. A life where you communicate effectively and create solutions together. Hurt and pain in your relationship is a thing of the past. Together you can reclaim the joy and excitement in your relationship to make your dreams come true.

IF YOU ARE READING THIS…

That life is waiting for you.

Both of you have the same goal to get back to being on the same “team” and enjoying your lives together.  Yet the fights, arguing, and disconnect leave you feeling drained and losing hope.

I connect with each partner to understand your perspective, drives, and longing for connection.  Building effective communication skills will help you to solve problems, and create a path of mutual understanding to get your relationship needs met.

I have formal training from the Gottman Institute, a research based approach to helping relationships. I have completed the Gottman Level 1 training, “Bridging the Couples Chasm”, and the Seven Principles Leader Training.

In addition, I integrate theory and interventions from Emotion Focused Therapy by Dr. Sue Johnson. With these combined approaches, I am able to help couples learn evidenced based communication and conflict skills to strengthen the deep connections they have for one another.

I believe we are hardwired to connect and long for romantic relationships. My passion to become a couples counselor was fueled by my belief that love is what gives life meaning and purpose.  

My approach is supportive, direct and educational. I enjoy helping couples break through old patterns and rekindle their love and commitment. 

Couples find that conflict resolution and building connection helps them fall in love all over again and get butterflies to date each other again. 

Reach out today if you are both ready to stop fighting and start healing.

FEREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

  • The early phase of couples therapy is highly structured as I get to know each partner and the relationship history.

    The first session will be with all of you to better understand what's brining you into therapy. Then I hold separate individual sessions with each partner to better understand their perspective on the relationship. We come back together in the fourth session where we will determine goals and a "roadmap" for therapy.

    I recommend weekly sessions for the first 5-8 weeks, and then determine if every other week is appropriate for ongoing therapy.

    Couples therapy is a longer commitment and time frame than individual therapy.

    Most couples begin to feel improvement and change in their relationship in as little as 20 sessions, while other couples may continue therapy for up to a year or longer to truly dig deep and heal their relationship.

  • This is a common worry for couples starting therapy.

    My role is to support the relationship between partners, not one person over the other. I see THE RELATIONSHIP AS MY CLIENT, and each partner will feel supported and understood.

    I frequently say to my couples "my role is to be your coach, not a referee." A referee would assume you are on opposite teams and I need to call foul play. That is not my goal. I aim support and coach each of you towards working better, together, on the same team.

  • This is a great question!

    Many therapists will say they offer couples therapy, however it takes a different type of knowledge and skill set to be an effective couples therapist. While a therapist my offer couples therapy, it is critical that they received training and supervision for doing couples therapy effectively. It's a whole different ball game than individual therapy!

    I received formal education and training in couples therapy throughout my 4 year graduate program, and have continued to build my knowledge and expertise in couples therapy through ongoing training, supervision and experience. While I have honed expertise in couples tehrapy, I view myself as a lifelong learner and continue to grow my understanding of what makes love work!

  • Some couples may find there is insurmountable pain in the relationship and are unclear of the direction they want to take, while for other couples one partner may be leaning out of the relationship by the time of reaching out to me.

    I offer support to couples in deciding if staying together or separating is best for the relationship and their individual needs. I regularly support couples as the decide to "consciously uncouple", and if there are children involved, placing the child's needs at the front of the divorce process, but never in the middle.

    I don't have a magic wand that can guarantee couples therapy will work. It takes a lot of effort from each partner.

    I can guarantee that I will show up with my whole heart to support you in whichever path is right for your relationship.

  • Most topics are welcome and open here -- everything from loading the dishwasher right, childhood wounds, and how to have greater sex!

    However, there are a few issues that I will not be able to treat:

    -Prescence of Intimate Partner Violence (IPV)

    -Current infidelity/affairs

    -Significant substance abuse in one or both partners.

    While this is not an exhaustive list, these topics are deterrents to creating emotional and physical safety in the relationship. I am more than happy to provide referrals to individual therapists to do work before retuning to couples therapy.

  • Schedule a free consultation here.

    This will be a 20 minute discovery call for you to determine if I am the right fit for your relationship!